10 Things I do to keep sane as a stay-at-home mom {Guest Post}

 

 

This is a guest post by Michelle of My Mom-Friday.

I married in 2002, became a mom one year later, worked until 2005, and two years later out came baby number two. After nine years of marriage, would you believe I am still struggling to get my groove back? You see, when I was single and working full time, my friends and colleagues saw me as the organizer, the ‘cool, calm, and collected’ type of person, a borderline O.C., reliable, and efficient. Well, part of that went out the window ever since I became a stay-at-home-mom.

I’ve already written about my being a SAHM on my blog so I don’t wanna bore you with details of my day-to-day existence. If you’re a mom, working or not, I know you’d understand the dynamics and balancing act we do every single day. Still, I have friends who don’t get it, who think I just stay home and do nothing. Crazy right?

My time revolves around the schedule of my children and husband. Whatever I need to do, I do it around their time. Whatever is left, that’s my “me time”. I know being a SAHM, or a WAHM, can get overwhelming at times, we all learn how to deal in our own little way.

I am not the type who gives advice or dishes out how-to’s, hence, I came up with this random list of things I do AT HOME that help me keep things together without losing my mind:

1. Phone a friend. 

As a SAHM, I crave for social connections. The old-fashioned telephone call is my occasional afternoon therapy. Talking with my girl friends even for just an hour, or less, stimulates enough brain activity to get me going the rest of the day. I also call my mother weekly. Live conversations are always better than online chats.

2. Assign chores and tasks for certain days of the week.

To at least have a semblance of structure and organization in my week, I assign a few hours of the day to certain chores and tasks (inspired by Desperate Housewife Bree Van De Kamp, except I don’t do laundry day, heehee). Ex. Monday-Tuesday for household bookkeeping and filing; Wednesday-Thursday for appointments, errands; Friday-Saturday for grocery shopping and kids’ extra-curriculars, Sunday with the gannies, cousins, and movie time at home with hubby J.

3. Have blog / Tweet / Facebook time.

Since I’m home most of the time, blogging and social networking is my hotline to the grown-up world. It’s a breather from idle time on the road, and hours spent talking and listening to the kids and their make-believe stories.

4. Cook something new.

I don’t plan it but there are moments when I just want to whip up a dish for myself, made with whatever ingredient that inspires me from the pantry or the fridge. It’s rewarding especially when J and the kids would actually want to eat it! 

5. Check on the plants and pets.

Believe it or not, doing so relaxes me. Petting the rabbit, watching the fish swim, watering and pruning the plants, they work well to break the monotony.

6. Dine alone.

This is one of my quiet-time activities. A few times a week, I prepare a simple snack and eat by myself, no rushing, even when the kids are home. I just need a few minutes to eat whatever…in slooow-mo. Does that make sense?

7. Watch TV or read magazines.

I seldom get do this lately, weird, but it’s true. If I feel my back pains from sitting too long in front of the computer, I turn on the television or flip through travel magazines. 30 minutes is all I need to stretch and “escape”.

8. Take extra long baths/showers.

At least once a week, I indulge in longer-than-usual shower time. I use a luxurious bath soap or body wash, then scrub, and simply take my time to relax and feel invigorated.

9. Do arts & crafts.

When the kids have school projects, I try to help them out and get crafty too. Kids happy, mommy happy too!

10. Organize (bottomless) clutter.

This remains a daunting task. Procrastination is my enemy. My goal is to attack one nook or corner at a time. So help me God. (Maybe this shouldn’t be on the list, it’s pushing me off the edge!)

If all else fails…

… then I get out of the house. Whether a quick stop to the deli, get a waxing treatment, or sit in a café enjoying my favorite dessert or milk tea, a quick change of environment always does the trick. I also look forward to monthly dinners with my best girls.

You may think these are all too shallow, but I realized that doing something outside the routine is what helps me get back on track and regain my focus on more important matters.

I’m thankful that Martine invited me here since it made me look back at how I coped and dealt with roadblocks in my home life, and embrace my role as a SAHM. These are just some of the usual distractions I do to keep my sanity, to feel whole and happy as an individual, and still be able to give enough of myself to my family.

 

Michelle is a former advertising/public relations/events/marketing practitioner. A stay-at-home mom since 2006, she’s married for 9 years to J, and is mom to two lovely children. Aside from nurturing a small brood, she helps in the family businesses and engages in digital and social media marketing projects on the side. Take a peek into this mom’s multi-faceted world through her blog, My Mom-Friday. Photo credit: Michelle took the photo above of her gorgeous home.

Comments

  1. Lou says

    Great piece, Michelle and Martine. I was working full time when we met during our blogger event (I only lasted 6 months) and then became a WAHM again as a consultant. I worked for more than 10 years but I love working from home (now close to 5 years). I like the eating alone part. =)

  2. says

    hi michelle! thanks for the great tips from a SAHM to another.
    yes, the daily chores never seem to get done for us so your tips can really help in getting us by & keeping us sane. =)

    i do almost everything in your list save for #1 (we have poor signal here in our “far-flung” subdivision), #2 (i don’t have a helper anymore around the house), & #5 (we don’t have pets & i let my stay-out laundrywoman do the plant-tending for me after her chore is done). anyway, the “me-time” is definitely a “not-to-miss” thing for me once a week or every 2 weeks.

    thanks, too, martine for sharing your guest blogger’s “how-to” list! kudos to both of you.

  3. says

    Thank you for sharing your tips and beautiful photos! I remember when I was a young mom, (there was no internet back then), so my “social” life was very limited! I love blogging. I am so glad that blogging is another venue SAHMs have to keep socially active with other like minded moms dealing with similar issues. Great guest post! Lisa
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  4. says

    Great post Michelle! I super like! It’s very helpful and it’s nice to know that we do some things in common to keep our sanity! =) I do #s 3, 6, 7, 8 and salon time =)

    Also I have to mention, I love your bookcase! Dream ko may isang wall ako ng ganyan full of books pagnagka own house na kami =)

    Thanks Martine for having mega helpful features like this! =)

    • Martine says

      Hi, Devon! Thanks for the kind words. Being a mom is the best job, but yes, the toughest! Hope you find more tips here on Dainty Mom and Mom-Friday. Have a great day. :)

  5. says

    Thank you so much for sharing this wonderful post Michelle. I think I need to go out and start my garden as soon as possible. I also need to go and check out our dog and give her a pat. Its been a long time since I have done that! :)

    Visiting your blog too Martine! ;)

    • Martine says

      Thank you, Ruby. I love that you can garden! I live in an apartment, so no garden. I just appreciate the view of the neighbors vast, meadow-like garden, which is the main view outside our house’s little porch. For now, potted plants and fresh flowers will do for me. :)

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