I’m 33 as I write this. For me, 40 seems like such a long way off. So when CalChews called me last week asking me to write about my “4 Before 40” (or the top 4 things I wanted to do before I turned 40), it got me thinking: What would I do in the next seven years before I hit that age? I’m big on creating my own bliss, carving out a life that works for me. That’s is why I absolutely LOVED the idea of coming out with a life list for the next few years. After all, you’re only 40 once.

I started to really think about what I wanted — they were a lot. But, if I had to narrow down that list to just four, these would be at the very top.

1. Have a baby girl.

Sugar and spice and everything nice; that’s what little girls are made of. [from the Roud Folk Song Index]

My husband and I have always wanted to have more than one kid. Our son, Vito, is now two years old, and ever since he weaned, I’ve had a lingering, somewhat longing feeling to have another child! Well, my wish is that my next baby would be a girl. I can just imagine a mini version of me, a little lady whom I could cuddle and squeezeinto pink and brown clothes (such as this adorable sweater).

Just the other night, my husband and I decided we were ready to try for another baby in the next few months. I’ve always been intentional about pregnancy and getting my body ready for the change that is “the next 9.” (Just to be clear: NO, I am not pregnant yet!) If and when we do get pregnant, I do hope (God-willing) it’s a little princess.

2. Circumnavigate the globe with my hubby for our 10th anniversary.

Just remember, once you’re over the hill you begin to pick up speed. – Charles M. Schultz

My 40th year on this earth will be my 10th year as a happily married woman. For our 10th anniversary (or even before that), I want to go on a trip around the world with my husband. I’ve always dreamed of traveling with him across all the continents! See, one of our hobbies is watching Discovery Travel and Living on cable TV, especially the travel shows with Ian Wright (my hubby’s fave) and Samantha Brown (I wish I had her job!). We often talk about where we’d go and what we’d do if ever we had the chance to travel to distant locations such as Morocco, Russia and the Seychelles.

Empty passport
Right now, my passport is blank. I only got my “married name” passport last year, when my old passport expired. This one’s empty, just waiting to get stamped with a dreamy location, like Florence, Verona, or Tuscany, or perhaps another stamp to Paris and Germany, which I had in my old passport as a single girl. I love the romance of it all, come to think of it: a blank passport, just waiting to be stamped with possibilities I have only dreamed about. It would be awesome to finally travel internationally with my husband, as we never got the chance to.

3. Write a book.

“When I am writing, I am doing the thing I was meant to do.” – Anne Sexton

I’ve been writing since… forever. Well, since I was eight or nine, to be exact. As a child, I kept notebooks upon notebooks of stories that swirled around in my head. I won our weekly “Star of the Week” competitions in primary school more often than anyone, mostly when the topic was poetry or narrative writing. In my preteen years, I even started writing my own hybrid version of Sweet Valley+Pen Pals+The Baby Sitters Club; my brothers know this, because they once nosily poked around my room and laughed at my mini novels, one of which was an entire anthology involving 90s teen idols Jonathan Brandis and Luke Perry. (I have no idea where those embarrassing notebooks ended up.)

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My desk, i.e. the place of eternal key-pounding

Now, as a work at homemaker and blogger, I write every day. I’ve edited and copy edited several books for other people. I’ve even conceptualized a magazine, and manned the editorial management team of a website. I’ve held every job in the editorial niche except that of an author. I imagine there’s nothing quite like the feeling of holding a manuscript in your hand, knowing that one day it will be a hardbound edition at your local bookstore. It’s a delicious anticipation I’ve dreamed of feeling my whole life… and I have the next seven years to make that happen.

4. See with 20/20 vision again.

Life begins at 40 – but so do fallen arches, rheumatism, faulty eyesight, and the tendency to tell a story to the same person, three or four times. – Helen Rowland

I have been wearing specs since I was 12 years old. I got contacts when I was 17. Since then, I’ve often dreamt about what it would feel like to see perfectly, because I can’t even remember what that feels like. After having worn glasses and contacts for the past 21 years, perfect vision is not even a memory to me, it’s a never was.

I remember how, a few years ago, my mom got eye surgery and stopped wearing glasses altogether. Ever since then, I’ve wanted the same for myself. Modern advancements have made this possible, and it’s only a matter of time before I’m able to afford eye surgery for myself. Being a writer and having to sit in front of the computer for most of the day, my eyes are my most precious commodity. To be able to live with good eyesight will not just give me a physicality boost: It will — literally — change the way I perceive life.

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If life really begins on your 40th birthday, it’s because that’s when women finally get it… the guts to take back their lives. – Laura Randolph

I couldn’t agree more with Ms. Randolph up there: Now is the time when we women should be making our life lists, blazing towards 40 in a way that says “Hey, I’m living the life I was meant to live!” I don’t know about you, but when I hit 40 (in seven years — woot!) I want to be able to say I’m having my cake and eating it, too.

My 4 before 40 life list is a declaration of hope for the future. Maybe it is ambitious; but on this blog, I’ve always been all about creating my bliss, haven’t I? Whether it’s about family, work, homemaking or health, I firmly believe that every woman has the right to give herself what she wants. For me, that’s being able to work from home, be present with my kid (eventually, homeschool!), and to create a lifestyle that’s not perfect or ideal, but happy and fulfilling. You know, like the feeling of biting into that perfect chocolate cake. Because sometimes, I wants me something chocolatey or caramely… like this:

Sweet lord.

Wasn’t it Forrest Gump’s mom who said “life is like a box of chocolates?” Well now, I believe there’s truth in that! There’s just something about women and chocolates: We’re meant to be together. That’s why I love that CalChews, a groundbreaking calcium supplement, has combined a woman’s health needs and her love for all things sweet, in a unique form.

CalChews comes in chewy, chocolate or caramel candy form. (Yes, after a woman’s own heart!) There’s Vitamin D3 and Vitamin K1 goodness in each piece, which are both essential for optimum bone health and heart health, too. Trust me, as a scoliosis sufferer (with a history of hypertension in my blood line), having a calcium-vitamin-D-vitamin-K supplement in chocolate and caramel form is like… kismet. It was meant to be.

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Choose to chew!

Two of my favorite things, caramel and chocolate, individually wrapped, each with a power dose of immune-boosting, heart-healthy and antioxidant goodness of calcium. It’s just like candy! I’ve tried both flavors (Caramel and Chocolate) and both are yummy! I can’t decide which one I like better… much like the things on my life list.

All I can say is, with a “4 before 40” list like mine, I’m definitely going to need the extra strength, both in my bones and for my heart. At least now, I can confidently pursue my life-list for the next 7 years, knowing that I’ve got my body’s daily calcium needs with one pop of rich, creamy CalChews.

That, and a heart full of hope.

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