What? You Blog All Day? (and other raised-eyebrow comments I get)

I just came from a blogging-entrepreneurship class earlier today, and realized a lot of things about myself as an online writer. I wrote this entry a couple of weeks ago, but I somehow couldn’t finish it. After today’s class, this post has finally been put into perspective, and I feel like I can now publish it. — Martine, July 13, 2012.

Has this happened to you: You know, when someone asks you what you do for a living, and you tell them “I’m a blogger,” or “I’m a work-at-home mom,” and they give you “the look.” This “look” looks something like this:

I’ve gotten that look many times: the widening of the eyes and raised brows that almost touch the edge of one’s scalp, beaming an expression that’s a cross between feigned politeness and slight disbelief. Many times, I’ve dreaded “the look,” mainly because I was tired of explaining to people what it is that I do “for a living.” During those times, I wasn’t ready to explain what I did all day, from home, on my laptop. Because making a living as a blogger — for many people — still warrants an explanation.

What is it exactly that do I do for a living, you ask? 

I am a freelance writer. As a writer, I often write about being a work at home mom, here on my blog. Because of the writing I do on this blog, I have also managed to:

  • write blog articles for other websites and blogs;
  • Tweet and I Facebook on my own social media accounts, as well as those of my clients, for a huge chunk of the day;
  • get hired by companies and small businesses to do variety of marketing copy;
  • edit and conceptualize digital and print publications,
… among other things. I’ve gotten freelance writing work because of my blog. Somehow, some people liked what they read on my blog and decided to ask me, “Well, now, why don’t you also write for my company?” And I have been doing so.

As a blogger and freelance writer, I’ve kind of become my own boss, too. I make my own rules, and I work according to what I want to prioritize. I’m actually physically busier than I ever, busier than when I was a teacher for seven years! The thing is, even though I’m busy freelancing and blogging, I still have more time to do the things I really want to do. I have more time with my family; I have time to keep house, to cook; I spend time on my advocacies, and I even to get some “me” time to spend for myself. I’m crafting the kind of  life I want to live and I get to blog about it.

Making my own definition of bliss through blogging

In the blogging class I attended today, our lecturer Anton Diaz spoke of the need to make our own definitions for ourselves as bloggers, as online history makers. Why? Because it’s when we really own what we do that we become truly passionate, truly driven to pursue the life we want to live.

And so, I’d like to be the first to say that, I, Martine de Luna, am a “work-at-homemaker.” A work-at-homemaker believes in creating a blissful experience while working from home. As a mother, I am empowered to make a living while making a home.

Don’t get me wrong. Life’s not perfect. My husband and I still rent. We are still paying for our car. We ponder about our kid’s schooling, and have our personal struggles as a family. As a freelance writer, I’ve made costly, horrible mistakes that almost ruined my business! And don’t talk to me about the money side of things: Being a freelancer, I never know when a client will stop hiring me for a job; I am never sure if next month’s earnings will tantamount to this month’s.

But, by God’s hand, I have always experienced goodness. There have been good people who have guided me, corrected me, and mentored me, despite my mistakes in blogging and in my freelancing. Our family has never lacked in food, clothing or shelter: We always have more than enough. God has been SO very good. 

Blogging has also been very good to me. It’s has helped me to connect with real, genuine people, not just clients. It’s helped me to work with a variety of small businesses, even big companies and advertisers. More than anything, it has helped me to define a lifestyle that I want to live. I want to keep on blogging, so that I can keep on freelancing… so that I can stay home, be a hands-on mom, be an active homemaker. I’ve never worked harder at something in my entire life. And I will continue to do so, slowly building up my online home to be a microcosm of life in my physical home: A place where work, “me” time, and the bits of my life meet. A place of bliss.

How about you? How do you define what you DO? Let’s talk about it.

Comments

  1. says

    Hello again Martine! :D I’ve been lurking in your blog since this morning and commented more than once :D. I am at the Working at Home section reading the posts one by one. I also experience raised-eyebrows comments a number of times already especially when the person asking is very new to the term “blogging”. It’s hard to explain, really. Being a WAHM is one of dreams, I have yet to invet for a simple home office and be equipped with skills to take online career to a higher level :)
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    • Martine says

      Hi, Weng! Thank you for all your comments — I just read them all and I am blessed. Thank you for your kind words! I do hope that you have found some helpful articles among these blog posts. I try to do what I can to be helpful, but I am always, always learning (and failing!) as a mom and blogger. :)

  2. says

    This is a great post. I do think people don’t take it seriously as a “real” job, so I totally hear you on that. I, too, would love more insight into how you get freelance work specifically, as that is an area I would be very interested in exploring but really know nothing about.
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    • Martine says

      Yes, many people still look at bloggers with shifty eyes, especially here in my country. That’s what makes it so difficult to go beyond just mere blogging. I’m still trying to figure things out myself, learning as I go about how to do things better.

      Freelancing was an offshoot of the blog, really. As I wrote, people began to inquire. What worked for me was writing about my thoughts as a new mother, but angling them as “how-to’s” or “tips.” It was very helpful to marry my real experiences with an evergreen topic that could inform my readers. This extended to me getting job offers to write similar types of articles for other websites. From that point on, things just started to pick up, and that’s where I am now. :)

  3. says

    I’m a ex-journalist who is trying to build my career doing more online writing—have you written any posts about how you had success? I still do a lot for the local publications here, but I’d love to do more online. My problem is since I write children’s books and I’m not a mom (yet)…it’s hard for people to figure out what my blogs like. Any advice you can give me would be awesome on how you found your clients, etc. My goal is to be a work at homemaker like you. We want to get pregnant soon (trying hard! :) ) so I want to have everything built up. Sorry for the long comment! :)
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    • Martine says

      Hi, Blondie! I suppose my success was in finding the right clients. I have a couple with whom I do regular work on retainer; that actually helps me a lot! I’m able to work on a flexible schedule, which is perfect since I want to be a full time mom. However, I still believe in working and making my own income. I found most of my clients through Craigslist and on online freelance platforms such as Odesk and Elance. Having a blog also helped greatly. I also auditioned to write for several parenting websites, which I did for a time. (Since you’re trying to get pregnant, perhaps you can check out one of the sites I used to write for, purenaturalmom.com. There are several articles there on how to get pregnant naturally, as well as tips on fertility, etc. I wish you all the best!

  4. says

    Homemakers are on call 24/7. It sure isn’t easy. And thinking of ways to earn extra while making home can sometimes be a challenge. But it is always safe to say that it is also rewarding in so many ways. =)
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    • Martine says

      Thanks, Ruth! It’s not an easy path at all, but I foresee it to be very rewarding in the end. Fingers-crossed I’ll be able to grow this blog more!

  5. says

    hello! I believe I could consider myself A HOMEMAKER… i guess it is not only you who received that kind of look, for example, me every time I tell them that I am a stay at home wife, I do receive that look with matching words: SARAP NAMAN… but then again i tell them what I DO basically here at the house and ayun stop na sila ng THE LOOK. hahaha! thank you for this post. I hope that people will respect what ever that we, as women, choose to do in our lives. :))
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  6. jenn tan says

    All I can say is “Amen! “. Thank you for giving us work at homemakers! (I love that term, by the way :-)) a voice through this article. Will definitely share this.

  7. says

    I haven’t yet cracked the code for regular earnings (impressed that you have!) so I sometimes have a hard time explaining why I even do it. I have plans to “monitize” this year but like you I have had such a positive experience with all the people I’ve met through blogging that it is worth any of the raised eyebrow comments I may receive!
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    • Martine says

      Hi, Kathy!
      I haven’t really earned from the ads that much on the blog just yet; it’s not easy! However, I’ve gotten to work with a lot of great people because of the blog. Like you, I’m still cracking the code for earnings through the blog traffic. :) And yes, the raised eyebrows have been worth it!

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