Blogging has to be joyful for you

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This is inspired by my mentor Holly Becker’s post on

Last week, Holly of decor8 released one of her not-so-often-published posts on the matter of blogging. Now, I take Holly’s opinion on this matter to heart, because it’s something that’s pressed on my mind pretty much this whole year. It’s why I made my blogging resolutions and why I put more of my heart and soul into my blogging & writing workshops and into a new small business that helps bloggers.

Dainty Mom is mainly a blog about me, about the little things I love (hence, the “dainty”), and about my little discoveries in a journey towards happiness and bliss. It’s taken me a long road to get to where I am today, as a blogger, and though I’m no celebrity blogger, I’ve built up a rather large loyal community around this space.

Believe me, it still baffles me daily, and I am humbled by the thought. Though I have made mistakes in the past as a blogger, I’ve always been honest with you, dear readers, about my inner conflicts as a non-ideal lifestyle blogger, and a struggling mommy blogger. And, I’ve always made it a point to share my struggles with you about this. I really thank you for sticking it out with me, because I really am working on making an online home that’s a true and authentic expression of what I love: writing, family, “bliss-finders” and making a home.

Which brings me to my point…

Blogging is meant to be joyful

In the book I’m reading, Creating Your Best Life, one of the “happiness” strategies that the authors recommend is journaling, or, the documentation of life events. Since blogging is a form of documentation (i.e. we record events, through photos, through stories, etc.), it may also be considered “close relative” of journaling, at least for people who are comfortable with the medium. Writing — whether on a blog or in a typical diary-journal) — has proven psychological effects: According to studies, “self-disclosure through writing appears to regulate our moods by giving us a safe emotional outlet, a way to put life into perspective, and a fresh way to ignite hopefulness about the future.” (Adams Miller & Frisch, 2009.)

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Reading my current “a-ha moment” book at Borough last Saturday while waiting for a blog coaching client.

When I read this particular excerpt, I realized:

My blog should be about more than just my opinions and recommendations. It should be a place where I celebrate my joys and ignite my hopes and dreams.

I know, I know; it’s a seemingly narcissistic statement, isn’t it?

But what can I say: It’s absolutely true. The reason why people read blogs in the first place is because they want to get to know the person behind the posts, the photos, the stories. The reason I’m fascinated by the Pioneer Woman‘s luscious and drool-worthy photos is because I am truly interested in the person behind the lens. It’s the same reason why I love Nicole of Making it Lovely, because I find it inspiring that she can create a beautiful home and make a living from her passion for decorating.

We want to understand what makes them come to life, what makes them “tick”, and even how they are currently getting through a particular phase or life stage.

This is also why I set up my blog coaching service, as a way to help other inspired bloggers tell their stories.  I realized that aside working with small businesses and little companies, individual bloggers also wanted to have the tools to help them achieve their personal goals, as storytellers in their own right. After all, a great blog is all about being able to tell stories, right? Yes, even if it is a lifestyle blog or a product review blog: Without a story, a blog cannot radiate with joy.

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Blog prompts by my client, Dette of Banana Bellie Boo, a creative reflection blog

As I begin this new work week, I go back to my purpose as a blogger: to find bliss in the moments that make up my life as a wife, mom, writer. This is why I call myself a “bliss-finder” now, because I truly and honestly desire to juice the happiness out of life. It’s why I put up a life listbecause I believe that I can share my bliss-making journey with you (and possibly hold myself accountable to you as a way to achieve my goals!).

I hope this week, you come alive on your blog again. I hope you come alive every day, even on those days when you write a rant or recall a struggle. As Hemingway says, “There is nothing to writing: All you do is sit at a typewriter and bleed”; may you bleed with passion, with opinions, with heartache, with joy, with humor.

But most of all, with life.


  1. says

    I love this post! I totally agree with you when you said that blogging should be a joyful (activity) for the blogger/writer. That is why I write mostly about the things I like or love, or have caught my interest (in a positive way). I keep my stories light and happy.

    I also realized that my fulfillment as a blogger is in receiving emails from readers who share my same interests or have found inspirations thru my blog. And getting thank-you notes from those who have found what they are looking for through my blog never fail to make my day ö
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    • Martine says

      Thanks, Nadia!

      I hope to be able to meet you one day, perhaps at a blogging workshop or meetup! I love meeting bloggers who just love to write, tell stories, and be creative in their own way, just as you are doing on your blog. Have a great day!

  2. says

    Thank you for this post, Martine! It came just when I needed it. I’ve been struggling with writing posts for my blog even if there was so much I wanted to share. I need to stop trying to edit myself and overthink — it stops me from writing altogether.

    I hope you never stop finding inspiration!
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  3. says

    very good points Ms. Martine! I always look up to you on your thoughts about blogging. I am not good in writing. But being able to blog, I learn how to be spontaneous in my thoughts and what is in my heart. That’s what matters most
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  4. says

    Lovely post, Martine, as always. I connect with this so much! I was “AWOL” from blogging for about 10 days and it hurt my soul. Dramatic but TRUE. My day job took so much of my time I didn’t have time to write. And it made me miserable. And it reinforced how much my blog is a part of my journey, not just as a blogger, writer, but as a mom, a woman, TONI. I love that I’ve found a kindred spirit in this journey *points at you* 😀 Miss you, Marts! Will catch up on your posts today!
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    • Martine says

      Tons! I know what you mean! This little blog of mine is my joy, too; I feel lost if I don’t write.
      Let’s hang out!!!! Miss na rin kita!

  5. says

    Napa-smile ako when I read Hemingway’s passage. It’s my writing mantra ever since: bleed.

    Well, this post pretty supported the struggle I’ve been experiencing lately. I haven’t written the posts for the brands because I am so enjoying the life that I’d prefer to blog about. I have yet to be “in the mood” to find time for the sponsored ones. Sometimes, I decline bloggers’ events that I find too expensive for me. It’s not my lifestyle kasi eh. I a mom blogger with a very simple, mass-appeal kind of lifestyle and that’s what I want my readers (who by the way are as simple as moi) to see in my site.

    Thank you, Martine for posts like this! If you have Holly Becker, I have YOU! May God bless you more so you could continue to bless others. :)
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    • Martine says

      That you DO, dear! :) Ako rin, I decline like 95% of events, unless they are for one of my brand ambassadorships. Di rin ako na-e-excite when there’s an event. Talagang I’m not meant to be a lifestyle blogger, LOL. and that’s OK. I like being a homemaking-writing-momma blogger.

      Can’t wait to see you this weekend!!!

    • Martine says

      We are kindred spirits, Louise! You’re one of the few lifestyle/resource bloggers out there that has really good stuff on your blog: real, authentic, not puro plugging lang. I love how you are able to manage your busy life and blogging, and still not lose your PASSION and PURPOSE — galing! You have no idea! :) See you this weekend!!!

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