Being All Here.

This pregnancy has only been a reality for about ten weeks. Last week, I saw my new baby for the first time, thanks to our first ultrasound. I captured that day during an Instagram party, in which I announced the new baby to my followers. I thought it was pretty cute:

be all there 2

This pregnancy feels very different from the first. My friends who have more than one kid have all told me, “This time, it will be easier.” Honestly, I’m having a hard time grasping the idea! I don’t know: Maybe they mean the birthing will be easier? (Praying it will be, Lord!) Because right now, all I can see ahead of me are a busy string of months filled with events, workshops, trying to keep a business afloat, all while ensuring I don’t drive myself insane during this pregnancy.

Today, it was a stressful day. I didn’t get all of my “to-do’s” done, thanks to some unexpected turns of events. I felt like ranting on social media, but instead I turned off my phone for a part of the day and just focused on getting things done.

At the end of the day, I realized I hadn’t done a number of things I’d planned to finishing, but it was OK. I was OK. After processing this hectic day, I came to terms with myself that I am where I need to be right now. I’m pregnant, for crying out loud. I won’t be able to function like an Energizer Bunny for now. I have to be OK with that.

So I’m reminded of the words of missionary Jim Elliot —

jim elliot, wherever you are, be all there

Wherever you are, be all there. — Jim Elliot

“Be all there, Martine.” Be all here, wherever my situation has allowed me to be at this point in time. 

Where am I right now?

Well, in the thick of the first trimester. I’m dealing with daily bouts of “baby woozies,” because I can’t really call it “morning sickness.” The feeling is a mix of being nauseated all day long, having no appetite for most of the day, and being hit by weird cravings for anything sour or tangy. (Weird, really. My meals today consisted of mozzarella sticks and salsa for brunch, followed by a veggie beef ragout for dinner, and then lots of non-caffeinated tea and lemonade in between. I managed to down some oatmeal cookies before I started feeling woozy again.)

And yet, I’ve decided I’m going to embrace the moment. “Live it to the hilt,” continues Jim Elliot.

If this season is teaching me anything, it’s to make things blissful indeed. I’m finding ways to make work lighter, more organically fit to my newly slow-paced (well, soon-to-be-slower-paced!) preggy life. I’ve been playing around Instagram, for instance, but at the same time growing my brand and meeting new people around the world because of it:

be all there 3Playing along with #7vignettes by Jen of @interiorsaddict. I gained lots of new friends and followers from this — good for my blog!

I’ve pared down on the number of short-order jobs and am focusing on more high-yield consulting work, so that I minimize meeting hours and time away from my son — not to mention time for myself to rest, eat and get proper exercise during this pregnancy. Busy-holic me had to come to terms with the idea, and I’m loving it. In fact, I was telling a friend online “I’ve slowed down considerably, I didn’t think I had it in me!”

Well, I do.

And I’ll be “being all here” for a good long while. Because when this new baby comes, my world will be turned upside down again, and I’ll have to make it blissful, too!

So, I hope you reading this have gotten something out of this “brain f*rt” today. Yeah, that’s what I’m calling it. Nothing sweet and candy-coated about it, haha! May you have your own revelations today.

Are you like me, addicted at times to the pace of your busy life? What have you done to “be all there,” where you are? Maybe the answer for you is not to slow down, but to shift perspectives? Let’s talk about it in the comments.


  1. says

    I haven’t congratulated you here, Martine! I was smiling from ear to ear when I saw your post on Instagram and Facebook about the new #makeitblissfulbaby. I’m really excited as your loyal reader! The bubba in the oven is already well-loved even before your tribe sees him/her. I can’t wait to know how Vito would react when he knows about his promotion. :)

    Hugs to you, mon cher ami! <3

  2. says

    You are so lovely, Marts. Thank you for this reminder. I’ve fallen victim to my to-do list many times. I’ve been learning recently that a huge part of my to-do list should be checking in if I’m still OK, if I’m still happy. Thanks also for reminding me of “being all there” wherever I am. It’s difficult to do especially when you have to multi-task!

    Sigh, I wish I had your blessing of pregnancy! Would love to grow our family too. You are so blessed, dear Marts. Truly blessed! *hugs*

    • Martine says

      Toniiiiiii! Haaay, it’s not been easy. I get headaches sometimes thinking of all the things I’m due to finish. Commitment is to just finish the load, and then slow down considerably. I like what you said about “checking in if I’m still OK, happy”: totally believe in that!!! All of us should do this.

      Thanks for dropping by!! Let’s please have tea soon.

  3. says

    Hi Martine! Thanks for sharing your insights about “Being all Here”.:) It’s so true that sometimes we are so caught up with our schedules that we forget to be all that we are in important areas. I think that slowing down and paring down our activities does not mean that we are less productive, we just need to rest up and fuel up so that we can do things better because we are full — physically, spiritually, mentally and emotionally.:)

    • Martine says

      I find “productivity” to be such a complicated word! :) Most people think it means being able to do more, when it really means being able to do the things you need to do, so that you can enjoy the life you love (which is my personal concept of it now!). I agree about rest. Our “tanks” always need to be refilled during these times! :) Thanks for sharing, Maricel!

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