Denise Rayala is one of those ladies you’d keep on your speed dial. She is reliable for a laugh, a shoulder to cry on, and if you needed it, a cup of sugar (literally and figuratively). Her blog, Royal Domesticity, is not your regular mommy blog; it is a respite from the daily grind, like your next door neighbor inviting you over for coffee and cake and a chat. You know you have a friend in her, a confidante, someone who will take you for who you are and celebrate that madness with you. Get to know more about this army wife-mama-homemaker-cook-social media manager mademoiselle, as she guests on Blog Love today.
1. TELL US A BIT ABOUT YOURSELF, AS A WOMAN. LET US GET TO KNOW YOU BETTER!
I used to be a typical girly girl based on people’s standards: I love pink, can get really insecure on how I look and am always hoping that someone will sweep me off my feet with grand romantic gestures. Now that I am married (to a military guy at that) and has a seven-year-old daughter, my girlishness changed a bit. I still love pink but I now have black and white to pair it with. Insecurity still attacks me at times but God gave me the wisdom to use it as a motivation to strive to be better. Lastly, marriage made me realize that romantic gestures may keep the fire burning but it doesn’t have to always come from the man. *If my husband is reading this, I’m sure he agrees.* I am now more self-assured and I just do what I do without seeking validation from the people who concern it. But who am I fooling? I am made to be a woman and all that jazz. Say, I love shopping for things that I don’t need? LOL.
2. HOW DID YOU COME TO START A BLOG OF YOUR OWN AND WHY?
I was on LiveJournal in early 2000s when it dawned on me that blogging is something that I would truly enjoy doing. When I opened a Blogger account and started rambling my teenage angst-ridden thoughts in 2004, I felt like it’s not meant to be read by the public so I did not share it with anyone. I deleted it a few years after. Then I became a mom and Facebook was invented. One of my friends told me that my funny posts about my daughter are blog-worthy. So in 2012, after a tiring seminar at the office, I made Bebengisms. And the rest, as they say, is history.
3. TELL US WHAT YOU THINK IS SPECIAL OR VALUABLE ABOUT YOUR BLOG.
I’m not sure if it’s super original but it’s kind of in between substance and lack of it. Although I’m happy to choose to make our lives as blissful as I can, I don’t shun away the fact that life can get pretty sh*tty at times, too. Royal Domesticity is 25% virtual representation of my life and who I am. I can be as intellectual as some of my thoughts on marriage and motherhood but I can also have days when I do nothing but chit-chat away with my randomness. That’s what my blog is.
4. WHAT COMES TO MIND, FOR YOU, WHEN YOU THINK OF “BLISS”, AS A BLOGGER? WHAT MAKES BLOGGING “BLISSFUL” FOR YOU?
Bliss, in blogging, is that one special place where you can just freely allow your readers to go to. It is where the thoughts you hardly share about offline reside. Blissful blogging is being yourself online as who you are offline.
5. WHAT ARE SOME LESSONS YOU’VE LEARNED SO FAR AS A BLOGGER? CAN YOU SHARE SOME WITH US?
I have learned a lot in my more than three years of mommy blogging and one of it is how to deal with negative comments. Some netizens said that a blogger has “arrived” when one has received hurtful comments and personal attacks from anonymous commenters. Yes, it can somehow make one feel good in a superficial level (like “omg, I’m famous”, haha) but in my opinion, a blogger’s success should not be based on having negatrons as fans in disguise. So I’ve realized that I’d rather be read by few than be followed by many and eventually welcome bashers in my online home. Like what I said, my blog is the virtual version of my house and life and I don’t want anyone ruin what I created beautifully, blissfully for the people I love and care about.
6. WHAT DO YOU HAVE PLANNED (OR IN YOUR DREAMS) DOWN THE ROAD FOR YOUR BLOG?
I’d love to see Royal Domesticity grow with me as I go along my life as a millennial mom and wife.